However, it did immediately remind me of the Ring Theory. I'll admit, I'm not perfect (shock!) and likely guilty of dumping in, too; I'm human. But, I try to check it when I catch myself being a little "dumpy."
So, in my pattern of internet regurgitation (don't worry, I still have at least one more regurgitation post planned!)...I present you:
How Not to Say the Wrong Thing.
It works in all kinds of crises – medical, legal, even existential. It's the 'Ring Theory' of kvetching. The first rule is comfort in, dump out.
When Susan had breast cancer, we heard a lot of lame remarks, but our favorite came from one of Susan's colleagues. She wanted, she needed, to visit Susan after the surgery, but Susan didn't feel like having visitors, and she said so. Her colleague's response? "This isn't just about you."
"It's not?" Susan wondered. "My breast cancer is not about me? It's about you?"